On a Date with Drag Queen Yvonne Nightstand
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- 3 days ago
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What’s it like to date a drag queen? More specifically, what’s it like to date Yvonne Nightstand—the multi-talented Drag Race Germany star who serves looks, vocals, and unapologetic charisma? Amanda from Playful set out to find out. Over drinks, they talk dating, queer safety in Berlin, and the art of becoming Yvonne Nightstand.
"The Birth of a Nightstand"
Drag isn’t just performance—it’s identity, rebellion, and self-expression wrapped in sequins and stilettos. For Yvonne Nightstand, the journey into drag was about more than just looking fabulous; it was about creating a character that encapsulated confidence and camp.
“I wanted a name that was playful, something that made people smile before I even opened my mouth,” she says. “And what’s better than a good nightstand?”
From small club gigs to the main stage of Drag Race Germany, Yvonne has crafted an alter ego that is both extravagant and deeply personal. Her style fuses classic Hollywood glamour with Berlin’s underground grit—a perfect metaphor for the city itself.
"Dating in Heels"
Being a drag performer comes with its own set of challenges, especially when it comes to dating.
“People either fetishize you or don’t take you seriously,” she says. “There’s this idea that drag queens are just characters, not real people with real emotions.”
Berlin, known for its liberal and open-minded culture, offers more freedom than most places—but that doesn’t mean it’s perfect. Yvonne admits that finding genuine connections can be tricky when people are more interested in the fantasy than the person behind it.
“Drag is my art, but it’s not my entire existence,” she says. “I want someone who sees me beyond the wigs and lashes.”
"Queer Berlin: Safe Haven or Illusion?"
Berlin has long been hailed as a queer mecca, a place where LGBTQ+ people can live and love freely. But does the reality live up to the reputation?
“It’s definitely safer than many other places,” Yvonne acknowledges, “but that doesn’t mean it’s free from discrimination.”
She shares stories of microaggressions, of nights where catcalling turned into something more sinister, of the underlying tension that still exists despite Berlin’s progressive image.
“We have amazing queer spaces, but even in Berlin, you have to be careful,” she says. “Safety isn’t guaranteed just because you’re in a ‘progressive’ city.”
"More Than Just a Show"
At the core of Yvonne’s drag is a message—one of resilience, self-love, and the power of transformation. She doesn’t just lip-sync; she tells stories. She doesn’t just wear costumes; she creates worlds.
“Drag is a statement,” she says. “It’s about owning who you are, no matter what anyone else thinks.”
And as the night winds down, one thing becomes clear: Yvonne Nightstand isn’t just a drag queen—she’s a force.