Speaking about kinks, fetishes... Yes, this is Playful! Your desire isn’t a blueprint that fits neatly into a one-size-fits-all box. Sexuality is vast, nuanced, and deeply personal. Yet, so many men find themselves in a spiral of shame, wondering if their fetish is "normal" or if it means something is "wrong" with them.
Spoiler alert: it doesn’t.
The truth is—fetishes and kinks are way more common than you think, and they’ve existed throughout history. If you’ve ever found yourself anxiously Googling, “Is my fetish normal?” at 2 AM, you’re not alone. But you're probably a very fun person to be around! This is your permission slip to drop the guilt and start embracing your sexuality with confidence. Join our community!
What Even Is a Fetish?
A fetish is simply a strong sexual fixation on a specific object, body part, scenario, or act that enhances arousal. Some people can only climax with their fetish involved, while others just find it an added bonus. Either way, it’s part of what makes them tick sexually.
Common fetishes include:
Feet and footwear (High heels, socks, barefoot admiration)
Domination and submission (BDSM, power dynamics, role-playing)
Voyeurism and exhibitionism (Watching or being watched in intimate scenarios)
Sensory kinks (Leather, latex, silk—textures that heighten arousal)
Role-play scenarios (Teacher-student, doctor-patient, fantasy characters)
Guess what? All of these are perfectly normal. And not only you and I have them.
Why Do We Feel Shame About Our Fetishes?
Society loves to shove sex into tight little boxes—acceptable or unacceptable, normal or taboo. But human sexuality isn’t black and white. A lot of shame around fetishes comes from outdated moral views, religious beliefs, or simple fear of judgment. The result? People repress desires instead of exploring them in a healthy way.
The irony? Studies show that most people have at least one kink or fetish. A 2021 study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that nearly 50% of participants reported engaging in fetishistic behavior at some point in their lives. You’re not the outlier—you’re part of the majority.
Is Your Fetish Healthy?
Here’s the real question: does your fetish bring you pleasure in a consensual, safe way? If the answer is yes, then it’s not something to worry about. A healthy fetish:
Involves consent from all parties.
Doesn’t interfere with daily life or well-being.
Enhances your sexual experience instead of causing distress.
If a fetish starts to take over your life, cause anxiety, or make you feel disconnected from real intimacy, it might be helpful to talk to a sex-positive therapist or explore ways to integrate it into a balanced sex life.
How to Own Your Kink With Confidence
If you’re struggling with fetish-related shame, try these steps:
Educate Yourself – The more you understand about human sexuality, the more you’ll see that fetishes are incredibly diverse and common.
Find a Community – Online forums, kink-friendly social spaces, and sex-positive groups can help normalize your desires.
Communicate with Partners – If you’re in a relationship, having open, judgment-free conversations about desires is key. Start small, be honest, and ease into discussions about your fetish.
Ditch the Shame – Pleasure isn’t a crime. Your desires are part of who you are, and as long as they’re explored ethically, there’s no reason to feel guilt.
Final Thoughts: Sexuality is a Spectrum, Not a Rulebook
The idea of “normal” when it comes to sex is a myth. What turns you on is yours to own, without shame or fear. The more we de-stigmatize fetishes, the more we create space for genuine, fulfilling sexual experiences.
So the next time you wonder, "Is my fetish normal?" flip the question around: Does it bring you joy? Is it safe? Is it consensual? If the answer is yes, then congratulations—you’re perfectly normal.